An Intelligent and Practical Response
to Relationship Betrayal
This comprehensive online video course is designed to help you identify the many perplexing reactions to an affair for the purpose of genuine healing by applying essential strategies that can lead
to authentic relationship restoration.
Dr. Les Carter
Creator of MarriagePath
After 35 years and 60,000+ counseling sessions helping couples through thousands of heartbreaking challenges, I developed MarriagePath — a powerful resource for helping you find the best ways to stay on your path toward genuine marital growth, recovery, and wholeness.
Les Carter, Ph. D.
The Affair Crisis Plan
An Intelligent and Practical Response to Betrayal
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Undoubtedly, one of the most difficult relationship dilemmas is the confusion and pain brought on by an extra-marital affair. With so much emotional turmoil (betrayal, anger, disillusionment, shame, and more) it can feel unnatural to apply reasonable courses of action, yet that is exactly what this course is designed to help you accomplish.
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15 Minutes to Constructive Anger
Season 2, Episode 95
Because we tend to think of anger in mostly negative terms, we can overlook the fact that sometimes anger has a legitimate function. It is an emotion of self-preservation and can prompt the individual to stand firmly for valid needs and convictions. That said, it can be easily misused, so it is important for the angry person to pause long enough to discern how to match the legitimate message of anger with a respectful manner of communication.
How Controllers Can Improve Their Relationships
Season 2, Episode 94
While a superficial assumption may lead you to conclude that controllers are self-assured and confident, they are in fact quite insecure. Controllers set themselves up for inner tension by presuming they cannot be satisfied as long as others do not conform. Common sense tells us, though, that high control people have diminishing appeal since their behaviors tend to bring out the worst in relations.
Your Attitude Toward Those With Small Roles
Season 2, Episode 93
Shadow people can be described as those you encounter who are not at the center of your relational world, but who play small roles in your overall life. They might be waitresses, store clerks, or neighborhood acquaintances. Your manner of interaction with shadow people can reveal much about your overall emotional healthiness, and that is what we will explore in this episode.
Five Keys for Overcoming Low Self-esteem
Season 2, Episode 92
The way you respond to disagreements goes a long way in demonstrating your emotional maturity. Many people, when faced with conflict, elect to go into an invalidating style of communication. Your task is to recognize this, then to accept the challenge to stay on a course of constructive communication, despite the temptation to respond rudely.
The Hidden Ingredient in Relationship Strains
Season 2, Episode 91
More than just an emotion of physical isolation, loneliness represents the sensation of feeling disconnected and misunderstood. When you are agitated, when conflicts are adversarial, when you struggle with sexual issues, loneliness is in the root system. By learning to respond cleanly to the sensation of disconnection, you will be able to move forward toward relationship healthiness.
How Denial Hinders Maturation
Season 2, Episode 90
There is no denying that denial is a major problem in marital communication. Denial is a defense mechanism indicating fear and insecurity. It leaves others feeling invalidated and dismissed, and the net result is stagnation in personal growth. To eliminate denial, begin with the realization that there is much that could be gained by receiving input. Listening (as opposed to invalidating) can help you grow.
Responding to Confrontations With Inner Calm
Season 2, Episode 89
In every close relationship there is the potential for being misunderstood, dismissed, or scolded. When those moments occur, it is common to respond with defensiveness or anger. As an alternative, though, you could learn to adjust your thoughts in a manner that would allow self-directed trust to guide your responses. In this episode we will explore how inner trust leads to calm reactions.
Like Sticks and Stones, Words Can Actually Harm You
Season 2, Episode 88
Each of us is exposed to cursing, and you may be one of those who frequently communicates with crass words leading the way. Rather than seeing swear words as harmless, it can be challenging to look more fully into the habit of cursing to determine what you are attempting to accomplish via word choice.
Applying Objectivity So You Can Remain Stable
Season 2, Episode 87
When someone is inappropriately angry toward you, it is easy to become pulled into the raw mood of the moment. As a contrast, if you can learn to recognize what is truly pushing that person’s anger along, you can develop objective understanding that prevents you from responding in your own maladaptive reactions.