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The Controller’s Dirty Little Secret Part 2

Five Problems Feeding The Controller’s Behaviors

Season 3, Episode 140

Once controllers admit their secret struggle with insecurity, they will need to take stock of what lies within their personalities. Chief among their struggles is hidden fear. The fact that they insist others must conform indicates they feel threatened by behavior contrary to their preferences. This trend can change, but it begins with self-awareness and honesty, as this podcast will address.


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The Controller’s Dirty Little Secret Part 2

by Les Carter, Ph. D. | MarriagePath Radio

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Something to Think About

In this episode, we established that:

  • Controllers like to be in the dominant position, a sure sign that they fear being “just” equal.
  • Change can occur as controllers realize how much self-induced stress comes along with their efforts to contain others.
  • To be less controlling, it is necessary to identify specific traits that are better alternatives.

Let’s Talk

“For you to be less controlling, what shifts in your thoughts would lead the way? How would your world become more pleasant as you minimized the need to control?”

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