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The Controller's Dirty Little Secret Part 1

Eight Ways to Respond to a Controller’s Insecurities

Season 3, Episode 139

When a person acts consistently controlling, behind the scenes is a deep insecurity driven by fear and apprehension. Yet these people often operate with such a low level of self awareness that they cannot admit this obvious truth. Your task, as one who relates with the controller, is to keep your composure, not allowing the other to set your emotional pace.


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The Controller's Dirty Little Secret pt. 1

by Les Carter, Ph. D. | MarriagePath Radio

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Something to Think About

In this episode, we learned that:

  • Controllers fear being deemed unnecessary.
  • Rather than allowing for differing thoughts and perceptions, controllers must appear to have all the knowledge needed to live with balance.
  • Your ability to respond well to the controller is in direct proportion to your own awareness of your’s and the other’s emotional patterns.

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“When you feel controlled by someone else how do you get drawn into that person’s dysfunction?”

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