Six Internal Adjustments To Keep From Being Overwhelmed By Toxic People
Season 3, Episode 137
When you are committed to a friendly, kind demeanor, others may see that as an opportunity to manipulate. In order to prevent ongoing toxicity, you will need to balance your goodness with firmness and boundaries. This will require certain internal adjustments to your surrounding circumstances, which will be identified in this podcast.
Seven Ways To Keep Balance In Sports Enthusiasm
Season 3, Episode 134
Some families suffer emotionally because sports participation can create exaggerated, harmful emotions. At its best, sports can create a welcome diversion from the hum-drum elements of life. But at its worst, sports participation can reveal an emptiness of the soul. In this podcast we will examine how to keep sports participation in check so it remains a positive addition to family life.
Seven Keys to Turning Strain Into Maturity
Season 3, Episode 133
Any marriage or family can be vulnerable to major problems that could be “game-changers.” When a seminal event happens creating questions about the viability of the relationship, that is a time for deep introspection. Rather than running with a “woe is me” mindset, you can be poised for thoughtfulness as never experienced before.
Six Ways To Build A Sturdy Foundation For Love
Season 3, Episode 131
While love includes a feeling component, it is much deeper than the mood of the moment. Infatuation can emphasize tender affection to the neglect of other matters such as lifestyle responsibilities, money habits, and emotional maturity. In this podcast we will identify six primary ways to build love on ingredients that move a relationship far beyond the infatuation stage.
Becoming Less Susceptible to Materialism
Season 3, Episode 128
It’s one thing to have conflicts about spending money, but at a deeper level, some families are at odds about the meaning of Things. Materialism can prompt persons to become so preoccupied with stuff and with image that they lose sight of relational and spiritual pursuits. In this podcast we will identify the nature of materialism and focus on six ways to keep it from taking over your life.
How Your Soft Skills Generate Influence
Season 3, Episode 127
Affection tends to be in full supply in the initial stages of a marriage, but it can fade over time. Thriving relationships don’t let affections wane, but they are intentional in being tender and gentle when the time requires it. This podcast discusses the many aspects of affection and how to make it central to your relational style.
Keeping Fairness In Balance
Season 3, Episode 126
Inevitably appeasement is the go to behavior associated with unhealthy people pleasing, and that is not a good thing. Yet, appeasement is not always wrong and it can be a necessary ingredient in a relationship that addresses unique needs and preferences. In this podcast we will distinguish healthy and unhealthy appeasement.
Seven Truths About Sharing Flaws and Vulnerabilities
Season 3, Episode 124
Most of us are hesitant to share our flaws with others. We know that as some people learn of your imperfections, judgment may ensue. But if you are going to know love in its fullest sense, it requires emotional vulnerability. The good news is that when you share the full you with the right people, you will be positioned to know authentic love.
Eight Keys to Bring Harmony from Difference
Season 3, Episode 122
Often when couples display differences they insist that the other should conform, when harmonizing would be the better alternative. Since it is illogical to insist that two people should think and emote exactly the same, this podcast will focus on ways to create harmony in the midst of differences.
Seven Ways To Apply Strength Under Control
Season 3, Episode 119
What would you think if I suggested that meekness can be a beginning point for power and influence (of a good nature)? Meekness is best described as strength under control, or better yet, it is wisdom in action. Meek people pursue personal goals within the context of goodness and they seek to build community. In this podcast we will identify seven essential ways to put meekness into wise action.
Eight Ways To Lay Down Ego Driven Thinking
Season 3, Episode 117
Being an accepting person comes with a cost, beginning with the laying down of your ego. Accepting people sidestep the need to impose their own correctness in favor of displaying respect, even when it cuts against their emotional grain. In this episode we will discuss how you can gain influence via the path of self restraint.
How to Successfully Navigate Relationship Imperfections
Season 3, Episode 116
As you live with someone for years, flaws and imperfections will repeatedly be displayed. When that happens, it is tempting to focus on making the other person change, but sometimes that effort repeatedly falls flat. That can be a signal that it is time to examine how you can stay steady inwardly even as your externals are not perfect.
Staying Inside Your Emotional Boundaries
Season 3, Episode 112
When our emotions and communications become problematic, it is almost always connected to blurred relationship boundaries. We can be so consumed by having harmony that we behave in troublesome ways when it is not happening. In this podcast we will identify cues indicating blurred boundaries, then we will look at the better alternatives.
Reducing Your Need to Control in Four Easy Steps
Season 3, Episode 110
Nitpickers have a tendency to over-focus on common, minor details to the extent that they perpetuate chronic tension. To minimize nitpicking, the need to be right needs to be exchanged for traits like acceptance, love, and tolerance. And if you are on the receiving end of nitpicking, you’ll need to cling to your inner confidence and calmness.
Staying On Path Even When Others Won’t Cooperate
Season 3, Episode 109
When you are committed to being fair in your primary relationships, it’s only natural to want the other person to share an equal commitment. Unfortunately, many people will not have the same eagerness for personal growth. In those moments you are faced with the question: Who do I need to be even if my efforts are not reciprocated?
12 Traits Indicating Relationship Healthiness
Season 3, Episode 107
Most people ending a marriage will state that they saw signs prior to marriage suggesting the relationship was not all it needed to be. In this podcast we will identify twelve qualities that need to be in place so you can move forward in a budding relationship with confidence. By knowing what to look for, your decision to commit to a long term relationship will be built upon more than just raw emotionalism.
Seven Indicators of A Servant’s Heart
Season 2, Episode 103
For a marriage to function at its best, each partner needs to be willing to look out for the other’s best interests. As couples operate with a team spirit, they demonstrate love in all sorts of small, but significant gestures. This podcast will identify seven distinct ways that servitude can be illustrated inside a marriage
How to Make Your Relationships Run More Smoothly
Season 2, Episode 102
When laughter is absent from a home, it is usually a sign of trouble. Conversely, when family members can enjoy funny stories or events, many good things can result. Humor has a way of creating bonding and it also diminishes our tendencies toward stress, anger, and tension. In this podcast we will explore the good that can come from this trait.
Eight Keys to a Joyful Life
Season 2, Episode 100
Happiness can be experienced in many forms, ranging from inner contentment to hilarious laughter. Getting there is the result of intentional efforts to invest in relationships and in goodness. In this podcast we will highlight multiple ways to make happiness an ongoing part of your life.
Responding to Unfairness With Loving Resolution
Season 2, Episode 99
Few people like to think of themselves as broken, but the longer you live, you will be susceptible to unwanted difficulties. Your challenge is to take your broken moments as a sort of laboratory experience, using them to produce good from your strains. In this podcast we will gain inspiration from a pianist who did just that, and we will discuss turning sorrow into strength.
When Feeling Gives Way to Choice
Season 2, Episode 98
When some people use the phrase “We’ve fallen out of love,” it can be the direct result of very serious problems like an affair, abuse, or gross irresponsibility. At other times, though, when that phrase is used it can really mean, “We’ve grown apart,” and that is something that can be addressed. When chemistry and high feelings fade, you can still choose love as a way of life, not as a duty but as an intentional mindset.
Being Real or Plain Old Stubbornness?
Season 2, Episode 97
Sometimes when people say “that’s just the way I am,” it is a flimsy way of indicating a stubborn refusal to make needed adjustments. Being who you are is great…as long as you are honest with yourself about the motives and repercussions of your behaviors. In this podcast we will examine how stubbornness can hinder relational healthiness.
How Controllers Can Improve Their Relationships
Season 2, Episode 94
While a superficial assumption may lead you to conclude that controllers are self-assured and confident, they are in fact quite insecure. Controllers set themselves up for inner tension by presuming they cannot be satisfied as long as others do not conform. Common sense tells us, though, that high control people have diminishing appeal since their behaviors tend to bring out the worst in relations.
Your Attitude Toward Those With Small Roles
Season 2, Episode 93
Shadow people can be described as those you encounter who are not at the center of your relational world, but who play small roles in your overall life. They might be waitresses, store clerks, or neighborhood acquaintances. Your manner of interaction with shadow people can reveal much about your overall emotional healthiness, and that is what we will explore in this episode.
The Hidden Ingredient in Relationship Strains
Season 2, Episode 91
More than just an emotion of physical isolation, loneliness represents the sensation of feeling disconnected and misunderstood. When you are agitated, when conflicts are adversarial, when you struggle with sexual issues, loneliness is in the root system. By learning to respond cleanly to the sensation of disconnection, you will be able to move forward toward relationship healthiness.
Like Sticks and Stones, Words Can Actually Harm You
Season 2, Episode 88
Each of us is exposed to cursing, and you may be one of those who frequently communicates with crass words leading the way. Rather than seeing swear words as harmless, it can be challenging to look more fully into the habit of cursing to determine what you are attempting to accomplish via word choice.
Five Ways to Turn Pain Into Growth
Season 2, Episode 86
Often when we experience suffering in the emotional or relational realm, we immediately wonder how to make it go away. Yet while suffering is not pleasant, lessons may be gleaned from it. Pain, though uncomfortable, is there for a reason. As you respond to it, you can find wisdom as you tend to the messages inherent in that situation.
When External Changes Don’t Satisfy
Season 2, Episode 85
Often when tensions arise, the prevailing question can be: “What am I supposed to do?” While this is not necessarily a bad question, a more penetrating thought might be: “Who can I be in this moment?” In this podcast we will focus on the ways your “being” can carry you when “doing” doesn’t seem to solve the problem.
Five Characteristics of Healthy Boundaries
Season 2, Episode 81
It is quite common for others to presume they can or should define who you are supposed to be and how you ought to feel and prioritize. In those cases, that represents a violation of relationship boundaries. Rather that collapsing in despair or trying to justify your legitimacy, you can choose to hold confidently to your own uniqueness.
Giving Priority to Openness and Affirmation
Season 2, Episode 80
In part, healthy relationships are defined by an open spirit. Some, however, struggle to know how revealing they can afford to be, and the result is a closed nature. In this podcast we will identify 8 reasons people can relate with a closed spirit, then we will discuss how to adjust so your communication style will not be hindered by a guarded, calculated nature.
How to Truly Improve Your Relationships
Season 2, Episode 79
If gratitude is not the most important ingredient for a successful manner of life it is one of the most important. When you naturally see and act upon goodness, your influence increases. Your emotions become more steady. You find contentment more readily. In this podcast you will be challenged to examine your levels of gratitude.
How Small Things Relate to the Greater Good
Season 2, Episode 77
You cannot expect people to be at their best in difficult moments when they give low priority to goodness in mundane incidents. This episode will highlight the good that develops when individuals develop a habit of goodness in small relational episodes.
You Get to Establish The Person You Want to Be
Season 2, Episode 76
Many people allow events and circumstances to bring out qualities that run counter to what they want to be. This implies that others are setting their pace for them. In this podcast we will look at the alternative of you establishing who you want to be even when it means not going along with the prevailing mood.
Giving Priority to Patience
Season 2, Episode 75
When individuals act impatiently they are so intent on pushing events to the finish line that they actually make the task all the more difficult. Living with balanced patience might feel like you are taking a slower path, yet the results can be much more satisfactory and timely. In this episode we will discuss the ingredients that go into the making of a patient manner of relating.
Applying Calm to Potential Storms
Season 2, Episode 74
When strains and tensions arise it is very common for couples to lean into the conflict with agitation and stubbornness. It may feel counter-intuitive, but those are precisely the moments when your calmness is needed most. This episode will explore the traits needed to create peace instead of volatility.
The Priority of a Thankful Heart
Season 2, Episode 73
Homes that give priority to expressions of thanks have higher levels of contentment. As simple as this notion seems, many minimize a grateful spirit as criticism and annoyance dominate. This episode will highlight various ways to set the stage for gratitude to be center stage.
Tapping The Brakes on Impulsive Reactions
Season 2, Episode 72
There is no shortage of scenarios requiring self-restraint. You may have unhealthy emotional outbursts, quick judgments, spending sprees, poor eating habits, or excessive alcohol consumption (to name just a few). With each situation, measured choices are greatly preferred over impulses of the moment. This episode will discuss the need for self-restraint and how to attain it.
How Self-Focus Can Help Keep Anger Constructive
Season 2, Episode 71
When strains are openly addressed within marriage, it is far too common to focus on what the other person should do in order to make things right. The alternative is to have a clear self-focus anchored in wisdom and discernment. As you plan who you want to be despite unfriendly responses, you can become a model worthy of following.
Addressing Anxiety From the Inside Out
Season 2, Episode 70
Anxiety can be understood as a result of unresolved conflicts. Specifically, anxious people tend to struggle with fear, anger, and control. In this episode we will identify the nature of anxiety for the purpose of learning how to keep that emotion from playing a prominent role in your primary relationships.
Eight Ingredients of a Spiritually Minded Person
Season 2, Episode 69
Rather than looking at life as driven solely by function and duty, spiritually minded people have an understanding that life is guided by an overarching meaning. They are driven by a desire to accentuate love in each element of daily living. As spirituality takes over, their influence becomes enhanced because others can more clearly appreciate an outpouring of their respect for human dignity.
Four Key Beliefs That Give Life Meaning
Season 2, Episode 68
While you cannot always choose what your circumstances will bring, you can choose your attitudes. This podcast focuses on 4 primary beliefs espoused by the late Viktor Frankl who penned his thoughts about a successful life after living through the horrors of the Holocaust.You will be challenged to receive his message of meaning and apply it to everyday life experiences.
How Two Traits Can Guide Your Priorities
Season 2, Episode 63
One of the great minds of the 20th century was that of Alexander Solzhenitsyn. While he is most known for political commentary, his philosophies are amazingly relevant for the home life too. In this episode we will identify 10 life lessons that are a direct spin-off from his core beliefs about dignity and the life of true contentment.
You Know Your Anger Is Hurtful, And Yet…
Season 2, Episode 59
Some individuals can treat anger like an old friend who is not good for them, yet they continue to go back to it because of familiarity. This can represent emotional laziness. Rather than quickly returning to maladaptive anger, though, it is possible to choose new patterns, and this episode will challenge you to rethink who you want to be when tensions rise.
What True Love Is and Is Not
Season 2, Episode 55
Many marriages experience undue strain because they are built upon a set of expectations that cannot be sustained. While romantic, eros love has its place, abiding love is anchored in an appreciation for the mundane, less stellar elements of relating. This episode will contrast infatuated feelings with a grounded approach toward the concept of being in love.
Eight Identifiers of Narcissism
Season 2, Episode 54
This episode identifies eight qualities to watch for as you discern if you are dealing with a narcissist. Once you recognize the narcissistic pattern, you will probably need to determine how to apply firm boundaries, as opposed to getting caught in circular arguments you will never win.
Ten Ways to Identify How Confident You Really Are
Season 1, Episode 51
You can tell if individuals operate with healthy self-acceptance by simply observing their behaviors. For example, when you have chronic agitation or if you argue too easily that tells us you are struggling inwardly. This episode will identify 10 ways self-acceptance is truly made known.
10 Ways to Stunt Personal Growth
Season 1, Episode 50
Unfortunately some people respond to tensions with a Victim’s Mentality, meaning they stay stuck in troublesome patterns. This episode will expose 10 ways Victim’s thwart personal growth, and you will be challenged to develop the mind of The Overcomer.
Applying Wisdom to Chronic Frustrations
Season 1, Episode 47
Sometimes, no matter how right or appropriate you are, your efforts to address frustrations fall flat. At that point you may need to reassess your goals to include the release of your anger – letting go of it.
How Emotional Pain Can Become Your Friend
Season 1, Episode 38
In this podcast we will explore how struggles with deep agony can become the catalyst for personal growth that may never have happened without the problematic circumstances. Agony can hurt, but pain is sometimes the best way to reach maturity.
Those Who Find the Good in Others
Season 1, Episode 31
This podcast begins with the acknowledgment that being a builder of significance is not always natural, then it offers ten principles that can help individuals become most effective in conveying to others that they indeed are significant.
Recognizing Relationship Poison
Season 1, Episode 23
While we might be tempted to identify fear with deep dread or apprehension, it can show itself in many nuanced ways.
The Power of Non-Verbal Communication
Season 1, Episode 20
In every relationship exchange are two levels of communication, overt (the spoken word) and covert (the unspoken message). Guess which is more powerful? In this episode you’ll learn to balance your messaging.
Gentle Emotion Has Its Place
Season 1, Episode 19
The Hurt Behind Bombastic Emotions
Season 1, Episode 14
Subtle and Not so Subtle Ways to Be in Charge
Season 1, Episode 13
Open Recognition of Respect
Season 1, Episode 10
Unhooking from Someone Else’s Dysfunction
Season 1, Episode 3
The Clean-Cut Way to Handle Frustrations
Season 1, Episode 1