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Emotional Healthiness

Value People and Use Things Not The Reverse

Becoming Less Susceptible to Materialism
Season 3, Episode 128
It’s one thing to have conflicts about spending money, but at a deeper level, some families are at odds about the meaning of Things. Materialism can prompt persons to become so preoccupied with stuff and with image that they lose sight of relational and spiritual pursuits. In this podcast we will identify the nature of materialism and focus on six ways to keep it from taking over your life.

The Power Of Affection

How Your Soft Skills Generate Influence
Season 3, Episode 127
Affection tends to be in full supply in the initial stages of a marriage, but it can fade over time. Thriving relationships don’t let affections wane, but they are intentional in being tender and gentle when the time requires it. This podcast discusses the many aspects of affection and how to make it central to your relational style.

When To Appease, When Not To Appease

Keeping Fairness In Balance
Season 3, Episode 126
Inevitably appeasement is the go to behavior associated with unhealthy people pleasing, and that is not a good thing. Yet, appeasement is not always wrong and it can be a necessary ingredient in a relationship that addresses unique needs and preferences. In this podcast we will distinguish healthy and unhealthy appeasement.

A Strange Path Toward Intimacy

Seven Truths About Sharing Flaws and Vulnerabilities
Season 3, Episode 124
Most of us are hesitant to share our flaws with others. We know that as some people learn of your imperfections, judgment may ensue. But if you are going to know love in its fullest sense, it requires emotional vulnerability. The good news is that when you share the full you with the right people, you will be positioned to know authentic love.

Does Your Relationship Have a Balance Statement?

Eight Keys to Bring Harmony from Difference
Season 3, Episode 122
Often when couples display differences they insist that the other should conform, when harmonizing would be the better alternative. Since it is illogical to insist that two people should think and emote exactly the same, this podcast will focus on ways to create harmony in the midst of differences.

Meekness Is Wisdom In Action

Seven Ways To Apply Strength Under Control
Season 3, Episode 119
What would you think if I suggested that meekness can be a beginning point for power and influence (of a good nature)? Meekness is best described as strength under control, or better yet, it is wisdom in action. Meek people pursue personal goals within the context of goodness and they seek to build community. In this podcast we will identify seven essential ways to put meekness into wise action.

The Cost Of Accepting Others

Eight Ways To Lay Down Ego Driven Thinking
Season 3, Episode 117
Being an accepting person comes with a cost, beginning with the laying down of your ego. Accepting people sidestep the need to impose their own correctness in favor of displaying respect, even when it cuts against their emotional grain. In this episode we will discuss how you can gain influence via the path of self restraint.

Eight Truths You Can Use to Calm the Storm

How to Successfully Navigate Relationship Imperfections
Season 3, Episode 116
As you live with someone for years, flaws and imperfections will repeatedly be displayed. When that happens, it is tempting to focus on making the other person change, but sometimes that effort repeatedly falls flat. That can be a signal that it is time to examine how you can stay steady inwardly even as your externals are not perfect.

Who Defines You, Especially When You’re Ticked Off?

Staying Inside Your Emotional Boundaries
Season 3, Episode 112
When our emotions and communications become problematic, it is almost always connected to blurred relationship boundaries. We can be so consumed by having harmony that we behave in troublesome ways when it is not happening. In this podcast we will identify cues indicating blurred boundaries, then we will look at the better alternatives.

Do You Have a Nitpicking Problem?

Reducing Your Need to Control in Four Easy Steps

Season 3, Episode 110

Nitpickers have a tendency to over-focus on common, minor details to the extent that they perpetuate chronic tension. To minimize nitpicking, the need to be right needs to be exchanged for traits like acceptance, love, and tolerance. And if you are on the receiving end of nitpicking, you’ll need to cling to your inner confidence and calmness.

An Inconvenient Truth About Change

Staying On Path Even When Others Won’t Cooperate

Season 3, Episode 109

When you are committed to being fair in your primary relationships, it’s only natural to want the other person to share an equal commitment. Unfortunately, many people will not have the same eagerness for personal growth. In those moments you are faced with the question: Who do I need to be even if my efforts are not reciprocated?

Finding Mr. or Mrs. Right

12 Traits Indicating Relationship Healthiness

Season 3, Episode 107

Most people ending a marriage will state that they saw signs prior to marriage suggesting the relationship was not all it needed to be. In this podcast we will identify twelve qualities that need to be in place so you can move forward in a budding relationship with confidence. By knowing what to look for, your decision to commit to a long term relationship will be built upon more than just raw emotionalism.

Mutual Servitude

Seven Indicators of A Servant’s Heart

Season 2, Episode 103

For a marriage to function at its best, each partner needs to be willing to look out for the other’s best interests. As couples operate with a team spirit, they demonstrate love in all sorts of small, but significant gestures. This podcast will identify seven distinct ways that servitude can be illustrated inside a marriage

How’s Your Sense of Humor?

How to Make Your Relationships Run More Smoothly

Season 2, Episode 102

When laughter is absent from a home, it is usually a sign of trouble. Conversely, when family members can enjoy funny stories or events, many good things can result. Humor has a way of creating bonding and it also diminishes our tendencies toward stress, anger, and tension. In this podcast we will explore the good that can come from this trait.

Happiness: More Than Having Fun

Eight Keys to a Joyful Life

Season 2, Episode 100

Happiness can be experienced in many forms, ranging from inner contentment to hilarious laughter. Getting there is the result of intentional efforts to invest in relationships and in goodness. In this podcast we will highlight multiple ways to make happiness an ongoing part of your life.

Broken Hands Loving Heart

Responding to Unfairness With Loving Resolution

Season 2, Episode 99

Few people like to think of themselves as broken, but the longer you live, you will be susceptible to unwanted difficulties. Your challenge is to take your broken moments as a sort of laboratory experience, using them to produce good from your strains. In this podcast we will gain inspiration from a pianist who did just that, and we will discuss turning sorrow into strength.

We’re out of Love – Now What?

When Feeling Gives Way to Choice

Season 2, Episode 98

When some people use the phrase “We’ve fallen out of love,” it can be the direct result of very serious problems like an affair, abuse, or gross irresponsibility. At other times, though, when that phrase is used it can really mean, “We’ve grown apart,” and that is something that can be addressed. When chemistry and high feelings fade, you can still choose love as a way of life, not as a duty but as an intentional mindset.

Hey, That’s Just The Way I Am

Being Real or Plain Old Stubbornness?

Season 2, Episode 97

Sometimes when people say “that’s just the way I am,” it is a flimsy way of indicating a stubborn refusal to make needed adjustments. Being who you are is great…as long as you are honest with yourself about the motives and repercussions of your behaviors. In this podcast we will examine how stubbornness can hinder relational healthiness.

The Insecurity Behind Controlling People

How Controllers Can Improve Their Relationships

Season 2, Episode 94

While a superficial assumption may lead you to conclude that controllers are self-assured and confident, they are in fact quite insecure. Controllers set themselves up for inner tension by presuming they cannot be satisfied as long as others do not conform. Common sense tells us, though, that high control people have diminishing appeal since their behaviors tend to bring out the worst in relations.

How You Treat Your Shadow People

Your Attitude Toward Those With Small Roles

Season 2, Episode 93

Shadow people can be described as those you encounter who are not at the center of your relational world, but who play small roles in your overall life. They might be waitresses, store clerks, or neighborhood acquaintances. Your manner of interaction with shadow people can reveal much about your overall emotional healthiness, and that is what we will explore in this episode.

How Loneliness Shows Up

The Hidden Ingredient in Relationship Strains

Season 2, Episode 91

More than just an emotion of physical isolation, loneliness represents the sensation of feeling disconnected and misunderstood. When you are agitated, when conflicts are adversarial, when you struggle with sexual issues, loneliness is in the root system. By learning to respond cleanly to the sensation of disconnection, you will be able to move forward toward relationship healthiness.

Cussing and Profanity

Like Sticks and Stones, Words Can Actually Harm You

Season 2, Episode 88

Each of us is exposed to cursing, and you may be one of those who frequently communicates with crass words leading the way. Rather than seeing swear words as harmless, it can be challenging to look more fully into the habit of cursing to determine what you are attempting to accomplish via word choice.

Necessary Suffering

Five Ways to Turn Pain Into Growth

Season 2, Episode 86

Often when we experience suffering in the emotional or relational realm, we immediately wonder how to make it go away. Yet while suffering is not pleasant, lessons may be gleaned from it. Pain, though uncomfortable, is there for a reason. As you respond to it, you can find wisdom as you tend to the messages inherent in that situation.

Doing Versus Being

When External Changes Don’t Satisfy

Season 2, Episode 85

Often when tensions arise, the prevailing question can be: “What am I supposed to do?” While this is not necessarily a bad question, a more penetrating thought might be: “Who can I be in this moment?” In this podcast we will focus on the ways your “being” can carry you when “doing” doesn’t seem to solve the problem.

Respecting Your Own Boundaries

Five Characteristics of Healthy Boundaries

Season 2, Episode 81

It is quite common for others to presume they can or should define who you are supposed to be and how you ought to feel and prioritize. In those cases, that represents a violation of relationship boundaries. Rather that collapsing in despair or trying to justify your legitimacy, you can choose to hold confidently to your own uniqueness.

Self-Revealing Communication

Giving Priority to Openness and Affirmation

Season 2, Episode 80

In part, healthy relationships are defined by an open spirit. Some, however, struggle to know how revealing they can afford to be, and the result is a closed nature. In this podcast we will identify 8 reasons people can relate with a closed spirit, then we will discuss how to adjust so your communication style will not be hindered by a guarded, calculated nature.

Gratitude Matters

How to Truly Improve Your Relationships

Season 2, Episode 79

If gratitude is not the most important ingredient for a successful manner of life it is one of the most important. When you naturally see and act upon goodness, your influence increases. Your emotions become more steady. You find contentment more readily. In this podcast you will be challenged to examine your levels of gratitude.

Trivia Isn’t Always Trivial

How Small Things Relate to the Greater Good

Season 2, Episode 77

You cannot expect people to be at their best in difficult moments when they give low priority to goodness in mundane incidents. This episode will highlight the good that develops when individuals develop a habit of goodness in small relational episodes.

Who Sets Your Pace?

You Get to Establish The Person You Want to Be

Season 2, Episode 76

Many people allow events and circumstances to bring out qualities that run counter to what they want to be. This implies that others are setting their pace for them. In this podcast we will look at the alternative of you establishing who you want to be even when it means not going along with the prevailing mood.

The Slow Approach Is The Fast Approach

Giving Priority to Patience

Season 2, Episode 75

When individuals act impatiently they are so intent on pushing events to the finish line that they actually make the task all the more difficult. Living with balanced patience might feel like you are taking a slower path, yet the results can be much more satisfactory and timely. In this episode we will discuss the ingredients that go into the making of a patient manner of relating.

Your Inner Peace – or Not

Applying Calm to Potential Storms

Season 2, Episode 74

When strains and tensions arise it is very common for couples to lean into the conflict with agitation and stubbornness. It may feel counter-intuitive, but those are precisely the moments when your calmness is needed most. This episode will explore the traits needed to create peace instead of volatility.

Gratitude

The Priority of a Thankful Heart

Season 2, Episode 73

Homes that give priority to expressions of thanks have higher levels of contentment. As simple as this notion seems, many minimize a grateful spirit as criticism and annoyance dominate. This episode will highlight various ways to set the stage for gratitude to be center stage.

Self-Restraint

Tapping The Brakes on Impulsive Reactions

Season 2, Episode 72

There is no shortage of scenarios requiring self-restraint. You may have unhealthy emotional outbursts, quick judgments, spending sprees, poor eating habits, or excessive alcohol consumption (to name just a few). With each situation, measured choices are greatly preferred over impulses of the moment. This episode will discuss the need for self-restraint and how to attain it.

The Most Important Ingredient for Managing Anger

How Self-Focus Can Help Keep Anger Constructive

Season 2, Episode 71

When strains are openly addressed within marriage, it is far too common to focus on what the other person should do in order to make things right. The alternative is to have a clear self-focus anchored in wisdom and discernment. As you plan who you want to be despite unfriendly responses, you can become a model worthy of following.

Three Ingredients Underlying Anxiety

Addressing Anxiety From the Inside Out

Season 2, Episode 70

Anxiety can be understood as a result of unresolved conflicts. Specifically, anxious people tend to struggle with fear, anger, and control. In this episode we will identify the nature of anxiety for the purpose of learning how to keep that emotion from playing a prominent role in your primary relationships.

What Spirituality Looks LIke

Eight Ingredients of a Spiritually Minded Person

Season 2, Episode 69

Rather than looking at life as driven solely by function and duty, spiritually minded people have an understanding that life is guided by an overarching meaning. They are driven by a desire to accentuate love in each element of daily living. As spirituality takes over, their influence becomes enhanced because others can more clearly appreciate an outpouring of their respect for human dignity.

Life as a Mission

Four Key Beliefs That Give Life Meaning

Season 2, Episode 68

While you cannot always choose what your circumstances will bring, you can choose your attitudes. This podcast focuses on 4 primary beliefs espoused by the late Viktor Frankl who penned his thoughts about a successful life after living through the horrors of the Holocaust.You will be challenged to receive his message of meaning and apply it to everyday life experiences.

Dignity and Contentment

How Two Traits Can Guide Your Priorities

Season 2, Episode 63

One of the great minds of the 20th century was that of Alexander Solzhenitsyn. While he is most known for political commentary, his philosophies are amazingly relevant for the home life too. In this episode we will identify 10 life lessons that are a direct spin-off from his core beliefs about dignity and the life of true contentment.

Are You Committed To Anger?

You Know Your Anger Is Hurtful, And Yet…

Season 2, Episode 59

Some individuals can treat anger like an old friend who is not good for them, yet they continue to go back to it because of familiarity. This can represent emotional laziness. Rather than quickly returning to maladaptive anger, though, it is possible to choose new patterns, and this episode will challenge you to rethink who you want to be when tensions rise.

Infatuation

What True Love Is and Is Not

Season 2, Episode 55

Many marriages experience undue strain because they are built upon a set of expectations that cannot be sustained. While romantic, eros love has its place, abiding love is anchored in an appreciation for the mundane, less stellar elements of relating. This episode will contrast infatuated feelings with a grounded approach toward the concept of being in love.

Am I Living With A Narcissist?

Eight Identifiers of Narcissism

Season 2, Episode 54

This episode identifies eight qualities to watch for as you discern if you are dealing with a narcissist. Once you recognize the narcissistic pattern, you will probably need to determine how to apply firm boundaries, as opposed to getting caught in circular arguments you will never win.

Self-Acceptance

Ten Ways to Identify How Confident You Really Are

Season 1, Episode 51

You can tell if individuals operate with healthy self-acceptance by simply observing their behaviors. For example, when you have chronic agitation or if you argue too easily that tells us you are struggling inwardly. This episode will identify 10 ways self-acceptance is truly made known.

Perpetual Victims

10 Ways to Stunt Personal Growth

Season 1, Episode 50

Unfortunately some people respond to tensions with a Victim’s Mentality, meaning they stay stuck in troublesome patterns. This episode will expose 10 ways Victim’s thwart personal growth, and you will be challenged to develop the mind of The Overcomer.

Releasing Anger

Applying Wisdom to Chronic Frustrations

Season 1, Episode 47

Sometimes, no matter how right or appropriate you are, your efforts to address frustrations fall flat. At that point you may need to reassess your goals to include the release of your anger – letting go of it.

The Up Side of Agony

How Emotional Pain Can Become Your Friend

Season 1, Episode 38

In this podcast we will explore how struggles with deep agony can become the catalyst for personal growth that may never have happened without the problematic circumstances. Agony can hurt, but pain is sometimes the best way to reach maturity.

Significance Builders

Those Who Find the Good in Others

Season 1, Episode 31

This podcast begins with the acknowledgment that being a builder of significance is not always natural, then it offers ten principles that can help individuals become most effective in conveying to others that they indeed are significant.

Being Critical

Recognizing Relationship Poison

Season 1, Episode 23

While we might be tempted to identify fear with deep dread or apprehension, it can show itself in many nuanced ways.

What Happens to Suppressed Anger

The Power of Non-Verbal Communication

Season 1, Episode 20

In every relationship exchange are two levels of communication, overt (the spoken word) and covert (the unspoken message). Guess which is more powerful? In this episode you’ll learn to balance your messaging.

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