I Agree, We Should Be Agreeable

Seven Indicators Of An Uplifting Relating Style
Season 3, Episode 135
Variety is built into all creation, meaning our relationships are defined by differentness and uniqueness. Even so, we can still choose to be agreeable as we encounter those differences. Agreeable people are able to set aside a competitive spirit, realizing that we are all on the same team. Goodness and affirmation become first priority. In this podcast we will look at the ways you can put this vital trait into play.

An Anchor for Conflict Resolution

Seven Simple Steps to Transformative Communication
Season 3, Episode 125
While most people understand that humility can be a good ingredient in the midst of conflicts, when tense moments occur, pride can take over. To have effective communication, your mindset needs to reflect an understanding of the others in your presence. In this podcast we will identify seven transformative truths that will guide you toward healthy conflict resolution.

Five Reasons To Tackle Differences With Restrain

Why Exaggerated Reactions Perpetuate Conflict

Season 3, Episode 111

When tensions and conflicts arise many people have a tendency to communicate with forcefulness or stubbornness leading the way. Common sense says that there are a variety of ways to look at any issue, so it would be wise to stay away from exaggerated attitudes in favor of modesty. This podcast will explore reasons to communicate in a more modest fashion.

Do You Want To Be Judgmental Or Accepting?

8 Ways to Create an Accepting Attitude

Season 3, Episode 108

Most people like to think of themselves as accepting…until they’re not. At times, opinions and preferences can become so strong that we offer rejection and judgment instead. Being accepting does not require you to cease having opinions and preferences, but it does require wisdom and discernment as you respond to the differences presented by others.

Boomerang Communication

Six Ways to Remove Hostility From Disagreements

Season 2, Episode 104

When you confront or express a frustration, there is a high potential for the other person to reverse the course of words right back onto you. That’s called boomerang communication. Words and emotions are invalidated and tension explodes on the scene. In this podcast we will discuss how to keep that form of communication from escalating.

Assumed Hostility

Becoming Offensive For No Good Reason

Season 2, Episode 101

Quite commonly your comments or questions can be met with an agitated response even when there is no good reason for the agitation. Sometimes individuals just assume a hostile stance in communication, and this can create immediate problems. In this segment, we will examine ways to keep hostility from popping out, especially when there are cleaner ways to interact.

Shut Down Communication Mode

Staying Clear From Silent Contempt

Season 2, Episode 96

Too commonly people manage tensions by going into a deep form of withdrawal that indicates punishment and contempt. While there are actually times when withdrawal can be a necessary tactic, it need not be accompanied by a message of rejection. In this episode we will examine how to find seek time for individual reflection even as relationship issues are in play.

How to Truly Feel Significant

Five Keys for Overcoming Low Self-esteem

Season 2, Episode 92

The way you respond to disagreements goes a long way in demonstrating your emotional maturity. Many people, when faced with conflict, elect to go into an invalidating style of communication. Your task is to recognize this, then to accept the challenge to stay on a course of constructive communication, despite the temptation to respond rudely.

The Anti-Growth Trait

How Denial Hinders Maturation

Season 2, Episode 90

There is no denying that denial is a major problem in marital communication. Denial is a defense mechanism indicating fear and insecurity. It leaves others feeling invalidated and dismissed, and the net result is stagnation in personal growth. To eliminate denial, begin with the realization that there is much that could be gained by receiving input. Listening (as opposed to invalidating) can help you grow.

Cussing and Profanity

Like Sticks and Stones, Words Can Actually Harm You

Season 2, Episode 88

Each of us is exposed to cursing, and you may be one of those who frequently communicates with crass words leading the way. Rather than seeing swear words as harmless, it can be challenging to look more fully into the habit of cursing to determine what you are attempting to accomplish via word choice.

Self-Revealing Communication

Giving Priority to Openness and Affirmation

Season 2, Episode 80

In part, healthy relationships are defined by an open spirit. Some, however, struggle to know how revealing they can afford to be, and the result is a closed nature. In this podcast we will identify 8 reasons people can relate with a closed spirit, then we will discuss how to adjust so your communication style will not be hindered by a guarded, calculated nature.

Accepting Differences

Five Ways to Respond to Differences Constructively

Season 2, Episode 67

Differences in close relationships cannot be avoided. When they arise, what is your tendency? You can use the moment to be destructive or you can use it to destroy. In this segment we will examine how to respond to relational differences in ways that can make you a more well-rounded person and can take your relationship to a higher plane.

Responding to Badgering

Five Tools to Keep Conflicts From Blowing Up

Season 2, Episode 65

When conflicts arise, communication can be laced with strong emotion which can then lead to badgering (griping, accusing, bossiness, repetitions, insistence, etc). Your task is to recognize the futility of badgering so you don’t make a bad situation worse. This episode will explain five key ideas that will set you up to be a calming presence in a potentially volatile situation.

When Winning Means Losing

Marital Communication Is Not A Competition

Season 2, Episode 61

When you and your partner disagree it can be easy to slip into a win-lose manner of communicating. When this happens, control and stubbornness become central as listening and cooperation fade. In this episode we will explore how efforts to win ultimately lead to relationship loss, and we will then identify healthy alternatives.

You Just Don’t Get It

How To Respond When The Other Person Cannot Understand You

Season 1, Episode 46

When you commit to a long-term relationship, you probably have some level of expectation that you will experience a reasonable synergy. Unfortunately, some individuals find themselves in close relations where that synergy will never materialize, leaving them with the question: “Now what?” This episode will help you explore your options when faced with a relationship that may never live up to reasonable expectations.

I’m Right You’re Wrong

Moving Beyond Black and White Reasoning

Season 1, Episode 45

In a high percentage of conflicts, the exchanges devolve into an argument about who is most correct. What might happen if we agreed to be less concerned with absolute correctness and more concerned with establishing a fair-minded exchange of give and take?

Trustworthy People

Being a Person Who Builds Loyalty

Season 1, Episode 43

Relationships will quickly collapse when trust is lacking. Trust is the precursor for skills like conflict resolution, building security, being an encourager, and instilling motivation. This podcast will highlight 12 key ingredients that go into the making of a trustworthy person.

Keeping Secrets

Choosing Openness over Deception

Season 1, Episode 42

Healthy relating consists of keeping no secrets of a moral or ethical matter, and by having the fullest accountability that common sense allows. In other words, being known is essential to being securely connected.

Wisdom Over Correctness

Why Being Right Might Not Always Be Right

Season 1, Episode 41

When family members disagree, they can readily resort to arguments about the correct way to manage the problem. In this podcast you will be challenged to recognize that while it is nice to be right, it is even better to be wise.

Scolding – What’s Wrong With You?

Shame Based Communication

Season 1, Episode 40

Too commonly family members can resort to a scolding form of expression as they attempt to express needs and preferences. Virtually never is the result positive, yet it can become habitual.

The Passive Aggressive

What Happens When Anger Becomes Conniving

Season 1, Episode 39

This podcast will help you identify when others are dragging you down with passive aggressive tactics, focusing on how you can respond in ways that will keep you from feeling trapped by its manipulations.

Kindness Matters

How Simple Kindness Has a Profound Impact

Season 1, Episode 37

A central ingredient in loving relationships is kindness. The absence of kindness can allow anger or insecurity to fester, but the presence of kindness can become the foundation for security and clean communication. You don’t want to miss this episode.


People Pleasing Isn’t Always Pleasing

Season 1, Episode 34

This form of communication is driven by fear, and ultimately it is dishonest. In this podcast we’ll discuss clean alternatives to a more honest, firm approach toward problem solving.

Significance Builders

Those Who Find the Good in Others

Season 1, Episode 31

This podcast begins with the acknowledgment that being a builder of significance is not always natural, then it offers ten principles that can help individuals become most effective in conveying to others that they indeed are significant.

Covert Messages

The Power of Non-Verbal Communication

Season 1, Episode 30

In every relationship exchange are two levels of communication, overt (the spoken word) and covert (the unspoken message). Guess which is more powerful? To become an effective communicator, your covert messages will need to match your overt messages.

Pessimistic vs. Optimistic Communication

Subtle Ways We Set up Others’ Responses

Season 1, Episode 29

Pessimistic communication arises in the most common scenarios. This podcast will highlight the stark differences between the two forms of communication, focusing on the mindset that lies beneath your chosen manner of interaction.

You Are Free

Life Outside the Confines of Control

Season 1, Episode 27

When you begin every exchange with an understanding that each person in the equation is genuinely free, the dynamics of the relationship change dramatically.

Not Saying I’m Sorry

How Not to Deny Flaws Others Clearly See

Season 1, Episode 26

This podcast will examine some of the behind-the-scenes tension that inhibits individuals from admitting wrongs, exploring also how this tendency can be remedied.

Refusing to Change

Stubbornness Leading to Interpersonal Ruin

Season 1, Episode 25

Some individuals pride themselves (in a good way) for their willingness to receive input, making adjustments that will benefit those they relate with. Those same people can feel baffled when they encounter others who absolutely will not budge or make necessary adjustments.

Imperative Communication

The Illusion Of Being In Control

Season 1, Episode 24

One of the most common problems in marriage and family discussions is the tendency to approach differences with an unbending agenda. This leads to what might be called imperative communication.

Cornering Questions

Why Accusing Queries Don’t Work

Season 1, Episode 21

Confrontations are part of any ongoing close relationship. It can actually be good to air out differences as a means of keeping a clean slate. Some people, however, confront by asking questions that accuse, shame, or embarrass the recipient.


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