Seven Indicators Of An Uplifting Relating Style
Season 3, Episode 135
Variety is built into all creation, meaning our relationships are defined by differentness and uniqueness. Even so, we can still choose to be agreeable as we encounter those differences. Agreeable people are able to set aside a competitive spirit, realizing that we are all on the same team. Goodness and affirmation become first priority. In this podcast we will look at the ways you can put this vital trait into play.
Seven Simple Steps to Transformative Communication
Season 3, Episode 125
While most people understand that humility can be a good ingredient in the midst of conflicts, when tense moments occur, pride can take over. To have effective communication, your mindset needs to reflect an understanding of the others in your presence. In this podcast we will identify seven transformative truths that will guide you toward healthy conflict resolution.
Why Exaggerated Reactions Perpetuate Conflict
Season 3, Episode 111
When tensions and conflicts arise many people have a tendency to communicate with forcefulness or stubbornness leading the way. Common sense says that there are a variety of ways to look at any issue, so it would be wise to stay away from exaggerated attitudes in favor of modesty. This podcast will explore reasons to communicate in a more modest fashion.
8 Ways to Create an Accepting Attitude
Season 3, Episode 108
Most people like to think of themselves as accepting…until they’re not. At times, opinions and preferences can become so strong that we offer rejection and judgment instead. Being accepting does not require you to cease having opinions and preferences, but it does require wisdom and discernment as you respond to the differences presented by others.
Six Ways to Remove Hostility From Disagreements
Season 2, Episode 104
When you confront or express a frustration, there is a high potential for the other person to reverse the course of words right back onto you. That’s called boomerang communication. Words and emotions are invalidated and tension explodes on the scene. In this podcast we will discuss how to keep that form of communication from escalating.
Becoming Offensive For No Good Reason
Season 2, Episode 101
Quite commonly your comments or questions can be met with an agitated response even when there is no good reason for the agitation. Sometimes individuals just assume a hostile stance in communication, and this can create immediate problems. In this segment, we will examine ways to keep hostility from popping out, especially when there are cleaner ways to interact.
Staying Clear From Silent Contempt
Season 2, Episode 96
Too commonly people manage tensions by going into a deep form of withdrawal that indicates punishment and contempt. While there are actually times when withdrawal can be a necessary tactic, it need not be accompanied by a message of rejection. In this episode we will examine how to find seek time for individual reflection even as relationship issues are in play.
Five Keys for Overcoming Low Self-esteem
Season 2, Episode 92
The way you respond to disagreements goes a long way in demonstrating your emotional maturity. Many people, when faced with conflict, elect to go into an invalidating style of communication. Your task is to recognize this, then to accept the challenge to stay on a course of constructive communication, despite the temptation to respond rudely.
How Denial Hinders Maturation
Season 2, Episode 90
There is no denying that denial is a major problem in marital communication. Denial is a defense mechanism indicating fear and insecurity. It leaves others feeling invalidated and dismissed, and the net result is stagnation in personal growth. To eliminate denial, begin with the realization that there is much that could be gained by receiving input. Listening (as opposed to invalidating) can help you grow.
Like Sticks and Stones, Words Can Actually Harm You
Season 2, Episode 88
Each of us is exposed to cursing, and you may be one of those who frequently communicates with crass words leading the way. Rather than seeing swear words as harmless, it can be challenging to look more fully into the habit of cursing to determine what you are attempting to accomplish via word choice.
Giving Priority to Openness and Affirmation
Season 2, Episode 80
In part, healthy relationships are defined by an open spirit. Some, however, struggle to know how revealing they can afford to be, and the result is a closed nature. In this podcast we will identify 8 reasons people can relate with a closed spirit, then we will discuss how to adjust so your communication style will not be hindered by a guarded, calculated nature.
Five Ways to Respond to Differences Constructively
Season 2, Episode 67
Differences in close relationships cannot be avoided. When they arise, what is your tendency? You can use the moment to be destructive or you can use it to destroy. In this segment we will examine how to respond to relational differences in ways that can make you a more well-rounded person and can take your relationship to a higher plane.
Five Tools to Keep Conflicts From Blowing Up
Season 2, Episode 65
When conflicts arise, communication can be laced with strong emotion which can then lead to badgering (griping, accusing, bossiness, repetitions, insistence, etc). Your task is to recognize the futility of badgering so you don’t make a bad situation worse. This episode will explain five key ideas that will set you up to be a calming presence in a potentially volatile situation.
Marital Communication Is Not A Competition
Season 2, Episode 61
When you and your partner disagree it can be easy to slip into a win-lose manner of communicating. When this happens, control and stubbornness become central as listening and cooperation fade. In this episode we will explore how efforts to win ultimately lead to relationship loss, and we will then identify healthy alternatives.
How To Respond When The Other Person Cannot Understand You
Season 1, Episode 46
When you commit to a long-term relationship, you probably have some level of expectation that you will experience a reasonable synergy. Unfortunately, some individuals find themselves in close relations where that synergy will never materialize, leaving them with the question: “Now what?” This episode will help you explore your options when faced with a relationship that may never live up to reasonable expectations.
Moving Beyond Black and White Reasoning
Season 1, Episode 45
In a high percentage of conflicts, the exchanges devolve into an argument about who is most correct. What might happen if we agreed to be less concerned with absolute correctness and more concerned with establishing a fair-minded exchange of give and take?
Being a Person Who Builds Loyalty
Season 1, Episode 43
Relationships will quickly collapse when trust is lacking. Trust is the precursor for skills like conflict resolution, building security, being an encourager, and instilling motivation. This podcast will highlight 12 key ingredients that go into the making of a trustworthy person.
Choosing Openness over Deception
Season 1, Episode 42
Healthy relating consists of keeping no secrets of a moral or ethical matter, and by having the fullest accountability that common sense allows. In other words, being known is essential to being securely connected.
Why Being Right Might Not Always Be Right
Season 1, Episode 41
When family members disagree, they can readily resort to arguments about the correct way to manage the problem. In this podcast you will be challenged to recognize that while it is nice to be right, it is even better to be wise.
Shame Based Communication
Season 1, Episode 40
Too commonly family members can resort to a scolding form of expression as they attempt to express needs and preferences. Virtually never is the result positive, yet it can become habitual.
What Happens When Anger Becomes Conniving
Season 1, Episode 39
This podcast will help you identify when others are dragging you down with passive aggressive tactics, focusing on how you can respond in ways that will keep you from feeling trapped by its manipulations.
How Simple Kindness Has a Profound Impact
Season 1, Episode 37
A central ingredient in loving relationships is kindness. The absence of kindness can allow anger or insecurity to fester, but the presence of kindness can become the foundation for security and clean communication. You don’t want to miss this episode.
People Pleasing Isn’t Always Pleasing
Season 1, Episode 34
This form of communication is driven by fear, and ultimately it is dishonest. In this podcast we’ll discuss clean alternatives to a more honest, firm approach toward problem solving.
Those Who Find the Good in Others
Season 1, Episode 31
This podcast begins with the acknowledgment that being a builder of significance is not always natural, then it offers ten principles that can help individuals become most effective in conveying to others that they indeed are significant.
The Power of Non-Verbal Communication
Season 1, Episode 30
In every relationship exchange are two levels of communication, overt (the spoken word) and covert (the unspoken message). Guess which is more powerful? To become an effective communicator, your covert messages will need to match your overt messages.
Subtle Ways We Set up Others’ Responses
Season 1, Episode 29
Pessimistic communication arises in the most common scenarios. This podcast will highlight the stark differences between the two forms of communication, focusing on the mindset that lies beneath your chosen manner of interaction.
Life Outside the Confines of Control
Season 1, Episode 27
When you begin every exchange with an understanding that each person in the equation is genuinely free, the dynamics of the relationship change dramatically.
How Not to Deny Flaws Others Clearly See
Season 1, Episode 26
This podcast will examine some of the behind-the-scenes tension that inhibits individuals from admitting wrongs, exploring also how this tendency can be remedied.
Stubbornness Leading to Interpersonal Ruin
Season 1, Episode 25
Some individuals pride themselves (in a good way) for their willingness to receive input, making adjustments that will benefit those they relate with. Those same people can feel baffled when they encounter others who absolutely will not budge or make necessary adjustments.
The Illusion Of Being In Control
Season 1, Episode 24
One of the most common problems in marriage and family discussions is the tendency to approach differences with an unbending agenda. This leads to what might be called imperative communication.
Why Accusing Queries Don’t Work
Season 1, Episode 21
Confrontations are part of any ongoing close relationship. It can actually be good to air out differences as a means of keeping a clean slate. Some people, however, confront by asking questions that accuse, shame, or embarrass the recipient.
Gentle Emotion Has Its Place
Season 1, Episode 19
An Alternative To Common Judgments
Season 1, Episode 17
Adults Who Are Fixated in Child-Like Ways
Season 1, Episode 16
The Futility Of Being Threatened By Differences
Season 1, Episode 15
The Hurt Behind Bombastic Emotions
Season 1, Episode 14
Your Deceptions Will Do You in
Season 1, Episode 11
Holding Your Ground While Keeping Your Composure
Season 1, Episode 9
How to Apply Relationship Glue
Season 1, Episode 7
Know Why You Do What You Do
Season 1, Episode 6
Choose Anger Responses Well
Season 1, Episode 4
Using Reason, Not Raw Emotion
Season 1, Episode 2