The Illusion Of Being In Control
Season 1, Episode 24
One of the most common problems in marriage and family discussions is the tendency to approach differences with an unbending agenda. This leads to what might be called imperative communication. While imperative people inevitably have a strong sense of correctness, they overlook how their rigidity conveys low levels of respect, acceptance, and trust. They need to learn that their correctness can be more readily received when control is dropped in favor of dignity and open-mindedness.
Something to Think about
In this episode, we learned that:
- A lazy approach to relationships includes a perpetual appeal to rules and obligation.
- Being right is not the ultimate good.
- When you communicate with imperatives, there are a multitude of hidden, covert messages that sabotage relational success.