Why Accusing Queries Don’t Work
Season 1, Episode 21
Confrontations are part of any ongoing close relationship. It can actually be good to air out differences as a means of keeping a clean slate. Some people, however, confront by asking questions that accuse, shame, or embarrass the recipient. Predictably, a very awkward standoff can result. This podcast will identify healthy alternatives to this crooked manner of making a point.
Something to Think about
In this episode, we identified the following characteristics about confrontations:
- Cornering questions represents a crooked way of expressing needs and feelings.
- Virtually never will you get a clean response when you try to make a point via questions.
- Behind the question can be a legitimate sentiment, so it would make sense to flatten out the question and simply state your need.