Why Accusing Queries Don’t Work
Season 1, Episode 21
Confrontations are part of any ongoing close relationship. It can actually be good to air out differences as a means of keeping a clean slate. Some people, however, confront by asking questions that accuse, shame, or embarrass the recipient. Predictably, a very awkward standoff can result. This podcast will identify healthy alternatives to this crooked manner of making a point.
Something to Think about
In this episode, we identified the following characteristics about confrontations:
- Cornering questions represents a crooked way of expressing needs and feelings.
- Virtually never will you get a clean response when you try to make a point via questions.
- Behind the question can be a legitimate sentiment, so it would make sense to flatten out the question and simply state your need.
“When you ask loaded questions, especially in moments of conflict, what is the likely response you will receive?”
Please take a moment and let me know your thoughts below.